tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2317814855786256631.post4333804467952886672..comments2023-09-17T05:23:35.442-05:00Comments on Garden of Holiness: Shy or stuck up?Christiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11721427445157839191noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2317814855786256631.post-15531180929931809712011-07-16T11:21:23.292-05:002011-07-16T11:21:23.292-05:00Kristen, you have my sympathy! It sounds like you ...Kristen, you have my sympathy! It sounds like you have worked hard to attain these skills. It's good to know that I'm on the right track here, so thank you for commenting!<br /><br />Great point about Princess Di's smile--it's approachable and it's communicating that a brazen "HOW ARE YOU DARLIN'!" kind of Big Texan glad-handing would be overwhelming! <br /><br />I have social skills on my radar a lot because my son with Autism must be taught them systematically--they come second nature to some of us and they are a foreign language to others of us. I find myself analyzing situations in order to teach a skill like "How to greet and be greeted." I'm going to be presumptuous and ask for you to remember me and forward any good stuff my way.Christiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11721427445157839191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2317814855786256631.post-1618285173587656962011-07-14T07:55:17.049-05:002011-07-14T07:55:17.049-05:00I suffer from social anxiety disorder which is shy...I suffer from social anxiety disorder which is shyness magnetized by 5000 it seems most days. What you are describing here is very accurate and is a good primer in not coming across snobby. Unfortunately, for me, I had to have some behavioral therapy (practice looking into people's eyes etc) which is a great alternative to drugs, thankfully. The only thing I ever warn against is that a lot of therapists try to get people with SAD or extreme shyness to walk, head held high with false confidence and smile like you are on the red carpet. I have found that sometimes people mistake that for arrogance or snobbery as well. I think of Princess Diana's shy smile with the slightly bowed head has worked better for me. Most people see it as, she's nervous, she's shy, I'll go say hi.Kristen @ St Monica's Bridgehttp://stmonicasbridge.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com