tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2317814855786256631.post6947981753197478292..comments2023-09-17T05:23:35.442-05:00Comments on Garden of Holiness: DefeminizingChristiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11721427445157839191noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2317814855786256631.post-14507424643019601272010-01-31T15:59:30.758-06:002010-01-31T15:59:30.758-06:00First of all, how strange that we were both subjec...First of all, how strange that we were both subjected to the same bad writing passed off as literature. If anyone needs proof of Purgatory...<br /><br />I'm so glad for your comment @Adoro. I was worried about implying that there is only one way or one call for women by expressing my call to MY way of being. Your letter points out, very clearly, the different callings for different women. Even though, in many ways, we are alike.<br /><br />I'm guessing that you, too, have lit a bonfire and payed homage to Tom Hanks.Christiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11721427445157839191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2317814855786256631.post-42174270865225222882010-01-30T20:34:22.138-06:002010-01-30T20:34:22.138-06:00This is a GREAT post. I remember that story, but w...This is a GREAT post. I remember that story, but we read it in college in a class called "Language Power and Abuse". Maybe it was just alluded to. We all saw it as child abuse. Not saying we weren't a bunch of feminists, but something about it was so fundamentally WRONG that we rejected it in favor of a far more natural approach. Maybe that of relativism, but one that did not condemn a boy for playing with dolls any more than it did a girl who played with GI Joes<br /><br />Then again...maybe most of us grew up that way. <br /><br />As a little girl I played with some dolls and talked about what I would or wouldn't do "when I have kids!"<br /><br />But as I got older, I realized I DIDN'T want children AT ALL!!!! <br /><br />I wanted to be married...but didn't want the product of marriage. I didn't understand why the two had to go together. <br /><br />Over time that changed, of course, but I also realized I wasn't called to marriage at all. Unfortunately I was STILL told by people that if I wasn't called to marriage, I couldn't possibly be called to anything else, because, as they said, "To be a good religious you have to be called to be a mother so you have to love and want children."<br /><br />How WRONG that advice was.<br /><br />Because of that very thing, I didn't discern my Vocation properly because I was sure that since this priest, and others who thought like him, said that I'd have to want to be a mother, well, since I didn't I must be in limbo.<br /><br />It's part of an extreme that is NOT the teaching of the Church!<br /><br />More and more I continue to learn now that "motherhood" isn't just physical, and that the ONLY expression of femininity isn't tea and dolls and dresses. <br /><br />The best Moms I have always known are those who get their hands dirty, have jeans stiffened by dried mud and have hands and faced worn by the elements. They aren't a bunch of sissies. But dang it, they are MOMS and they are incredible WOMEN who refused to be bullied by popular culture!<br /><br />And some of those women I admire...they aren't Mom's in the biological sense, but the spiritual, and God Bless them for being who they ARE and not who popular culture wants them to be. <br /><br />Mother Teresa, anyone?<br /><br />Sorry for the convoluted comment, but there it is!Adorohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02853244433854822731noreply@blogger.com